Do you know what I hate??
When I was growing up any time my brother upset/hurt/was rude to or downright nasty to me I was told “he’s just doing it to get a rise out of you” “he’s just doing it to annoy you”
Like??? I know?? I know he’s being mean to upset me. I know he’s saying horrible stuff to annoy me. And guess what?? I’m annoyed!!!!
I was literally told not to be upset, because his intentions were to upset me????
How is that not upsetting? Especially to a young girl??
THE GASLIGHTING STARTS EARLY.
As I was relentlessly bullied, I was often told not to react because the reaction was what they wanted, and that they would stop bullying me if I did not respond.
In reality, no, they just tried harder. All the advice ever taught me was to bottle up all the pent up frustration and misery, so ultimately what changed was that no-one knew how badly I was suffering.
Nothing is changed by inaction.As a child, constantly being told to “ignore” my bullies was hugely annoying. It felt like they were making it my responsibility not to be bulliable… which, y'know, that’s kind of a shitty thing for a teacher to tell a kid.
If you’re a teacher, or a parent, or are otherwise approached by a child complaining about bullying or abuse and this is the advice you’re giving the child, let’s make this absolutely clear: You are terrible. That child is coming to you for help. Help them.
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Friendly reminder to check you’re not holding tension in your body. Let your shoulders drop, unclench your hands and jaw. Take a deep breath. Much better.
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elphabaforpresidentofgallifrey:
what if ducks threw bread back at you
you’d have to duck
this is one of those posts that makes you step back and re-examine your entire worldview
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